教孩子閱讀自己和大自然二本書

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 有位哲學家說:教孩子要讀二本書:                                         

 一本是自己,一本叫做自然。                                               

 希望孩子能夠來閱讀這兩本書,不單用眼睛。                                 

                                                                          

 第一本書讀自己,                                                          

 就是指興趣、性向、能耐,                                                 

 能夠演活自己演好自己的人生(擁有自身獨特性)。                           

                                                                          

 有些人是大器晚成者,                                                      

 例如非洲之父史懷哲,他考不上大學,                                       

 後來是因為拉了一手好手風琴,一位校長破例讓他在該校讀書,                 

 他主修歷史,自修文學,                                                   

 30歲的時候才唸醫科,38歲畢業。                                           

                                                                           

 老頑童劉其偉,他有許多頭銜,                                             

 工程師、人類學家、冒險家、畫家,                                         

 他在38歲才開始畫畫,66歲成名,                                           

 他的一生活得豐富而精采!                                                 

                                                                          

 因此,有的人是大器晚成,                                                 

 有的人生是柳暗花明又一村,                                                

 有時路轉個彎會更好,成功需要時間,                                       

 當累積到很豐富時,成功就會來到,就會水到渠成。  

                         

                                                                          

 很多人,小時了了大未必佳,                                                

 因為他提早將自己的日月精華用光了;                                       

                                                                          

 如果2歲就會吊單槓,對他的身體發展會有害處。                              

 記得有個長跑選手蒲仲強很早受矚目卻不能長久,                             

 有人提早上大學資優生,但他們幾乎沒有童年的生活。                         

 例如:有個人12歲上哈佛大學、16歲畢業考上普林斯頓研究所,                 

 記者問他:你在哈佛最大的經驗是什麼?                                     

 他回答:除了寂寞,還是寂寞。                                             

                                                                           

 因此,我們不要用大人的角度來要求孩子,                                   

 時候到了就會水到渠成,該你的就是你的!                                   

                                                                          

 第二本書是大自然                                                          

                                                                          

 不要只是教孩子看書,                                                     

 要多帶孩子看山看水,                                                     

 看古道幽徑星星月亮,                                                     

 從自然中可以學習到很多書本學不到的東西。                                 

                                                                           

 例如:颱風來襲時,行道樹東倒西歪,躺下數萬棵,                           

 但森林中的樹往往佇立不搖,                                                

 我發現其中的道理隱在自然的平衡哲學裡,                                   

 森林的樹枝幹對稱而生,找著最平衡的肌理,                                 

 於是耐得住風吹雨打,行道樹修修剪前,則弱不禁風。                         

                                                                           

 要給孩子                                                                 

 一是活路(演活自己人生的路),                                           

 二是退路,不會讀書硬要他讀書就會成為死路。                                

 人活著常常會忘記兩件事呼吸和快樂,                                        

 因此只要他還存在(有呼吸)就有希望。                                     

 就如同「失之東瑜,收之桑榆」的意思.                                     

                                                                          

 不忘讚美孩子                                                              

                                                                          

 讚美可以用最少的力發揮更大的效果,                                       

 看到孩子的好處,就要去讚美他,他才會好他自己,                           

 孩子會用父母所看到他的好處,演給父母看。                                   

                                                                           

 例如:我女兒很喜歡烹飪,我讚美她:                                       

 今天一定有一個仙女來過,                                                 

 不然怎麼會變出這麼好的東西出來?                                          

 女兒就會越作越起勁。                                                     

                                                                          

 每天孩子一回來,我問的不是你在學校學了什麼?                             

 而是:有笑話嗎?                                                          

 現在兒子回到家就會對我說:今天有笑話,聽不聽?                           

                                                                          

 「量力」而行,現在做不到,來日方長,                                     

 日後有可能做得到,                                                        

 因此不要讓孩子永續的能力失去了,                                         

 給孩子自信,他就會告訴自己:                                             

 我行、我能,我再加加油!                                                 

 自己會為自己加油,未來就會有獨領風騷的機會!                              

                                                                          

 將來的時代是創意取勝的時代,                                             

 創意就是把兩個不相干的東西結合在一起,                                   

 例如:WALKMAN就是結合Walk和Man的兩個概念而創造出來的;                     

 水管是因為澆花的人要澆好幾處不方便而發明的;                             

 透明電梯是因為除了上樓梯外,                                             

 還想看風景的想法而產生的。                                               

                                                                           

 家長必須要常常聆聽孩子的心聲,                                           

 當孩子有時候突發奇想時,                                                 

 千萬不要罵他胡思亂想,                                                   

 而是叫他好好再想一想。                                                    

                                                                          

 家長是孩子的推手引領者,                                                 

 如何把孩子珍貴的東西引發出來,                                           

 並將孩子從幻想世界慢慢導入現實是家長的責任。                              

                                                                          

 把孩子的體力健康找回來                                                   

 如果孩子不健康他所跑的人生是短路不是長路,                               

 擁有健康身體能夠讓學習產生1.75倍的效率。                                  

                                                                          

 建議每個家庭建構一個運動時間,                                           

 我們家是騎腳踏車,                                                       

 兒子稱它為「發現台北的秘密花園」,                                        

                                                                          

 因為和他們一起騎腳踏車,                                                 

 我發現台北的美,                                                         

 甚至發現住家(木柵)附近特別漂亮的地方和小湖泊。                          

 你對自己住的地方了解嗎?                                                 

 是否能夠讓孩子有美好的回憶?                                             

 和他們一起去織夢?                                                       

                                                                           

 和孩子一起編織夢想                                                       

                                                                          

 讀者文摘上有個故事:                                                     

 老師告訴小朋友每個人只要捐出5元就能幫助非洲的人鑿一口井。                

 有個小朋友回家跟媽媽要5元,                                              

 媽媽說我們一起做資源回收賺這5元。                                        

                                                                          

 後來老師說上次我說錯了,鑿一口井應該是5000元,                            

 於是那個小朋友號召全班同學一起做資源回收賺錢,                           

 加上企業的贊助,最後完成了這個夢想!                                     

 因此,絕對不要小看孩子,